Musicmom speaks of her response to having a feminist mother for whom
“motherhood was a trap, children were a burden, a home was a prison and nurturing was unnecessary and too time-consuming…
Feminism became my enemy of choice and I vowed to aim my life’s energy at its destruction. I decided right then and there that my children would not grow up feeling unwanted and cast aside in favor of career and comfort. My quiverfull future (at least in my mind) had begun….”
The radical pro-abortion feminists who (oddly enough) seem to be the majority of Vyckie’s followers and supporters are intolerant of any expression of pro-life belief on the NLQ forum and set out to shoot the messenger. I know for a fact based on private messages I have received that QF women are driven away by the pro-abortion atmosphere. That’s OK, perhaps its for the best. It will do them no good to trade one side of the coin for the other!
What do radical pro-abortion feminists have in common with those who embraced a QF lifestyle to the point of their own personal destruction? Both groups of women have a root of self-hatred and self-rejection.
The pro-aborts would obliterate their femininity and maternal instinct perpetrating violence against their own unborn child. As a QF mom, I know that I felt that to be born female was to be born fundamentally inferior. The Christian world was filled with messages that left me feeling like God really didn’t think much of women (after all, they cannot be trusted with ANY leadership or authority!)
So I got on the QF hamster wheel of trying to prove the value and worth of femininity by over-use of the uniquely feminine ability to bear children. (NOT, mind you, that I regret having my children. They are, and will always be my greatest treasures!)
Ironic how the same women can express such (justifiable) rage over the death of a child at the hands of her QF parents, while simultaneously defending a mother’s “right” to KILL her unborn child. Now the RAGE is not directed at the MURDER of the child but with laser beam precision at any one who would DEFEND the child’s right to live. It strikes me as inconsistent and double-minded.
My experience on that board is that the QF mom winds up villainized every time.
She has the children, they grow up and have angst about their childhood experiences. She’s the villain.
She believes with all her heart that a child is human from conception and should be protected. She’s the villain.
She is an alien and stranger in this world:
-among church people who can’t understand deciding to allow God to plan her family size
-among her grown up children with angst about their upbringing
-to her husband who agrees with the church that she must be silent
-among those who set up foundations to “help” but only offer more disrespect
Beloved Daughter of the Most High God: He Understands! He Cares!
You are not a stranger to HIM!