INDEX

Index to Selected Posts

DEVOTIONAL SELECTIONS:

• in Mary Magdelene’s sandals…
• submit as to the Lord
• “The Curse” of Genesis 3? GOOD NEWS! God never CURSED humanity at the Fall!
• Circumcision of the Heart
• Whoever confesses his love BY EVERYTHING HE DOES…
• Mary Meditations
• suffering
• “works of the flesh”
• Reversing the Fall
• Am I faithful with “a little”?
• 1 Tim 2:11-15- Promise of RESTORATION!
• “I labor in birth until Christ be formed in you“
• SIN that leads to LIFE- HOW CAN THIS BE????
• The mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God

Authority:

• How much authority did Sarah have? ~~~~YOU ARE HER DAUGHTERS!
• Etymology of the word “authority”
• Am I faithful with “a little”?
• “To offer to domineer over the conscience is to assault the citadel of heaven.”
• Husband Head

Submission:

• Submission is REST…
• Jesus Role Models Submission
• Unilateral Submission
• submission and abuse
• submitting to abuse is not good for a husband!
• Submission is a qualification for Spiritual Leadership
• Wives Submit to Your Husbands

BIBLICAL WORD STUDIES:

• Respect in Marriage (Greek Word Study)
• hesed and submission
• “ezer”- help MEET
• “oikouros”- KEEPER of the home
• “authenteo”, anger, malice, clamour
• ONE WORD from the Bible changed my life! “oikodespot..”
• “teshuqua“- desire: “Jesus, can You be my husband?”
• DESIRE of “your desire shall be for your husband”
• “authentein” of 1 Timothy 2:12

Other Bible Studies:

• The Beast and the Harlot
• Implications of “unequally yoked” teaching
• How to “love life and see good days”
• Song of Songs- approval of the “harem” is NOT romantic!
• 1 Cor 7:5- Is it really ALL about SEX????

• Sarah Series- Introduction
  • Sarah Series #1: “even as Sara obeyed Abraham calling him lord”
  • Sarah Series #2: Sarai means “contentious”
  • Sarah Series #3: YOU are her DAUGHTERS!
  • Sarah Series #4: “you are Sarah’s daughters IF you…”
  • Sarah Series #5: the authority of daughters of Sarah
  • Sarah Series #6: The Egalitarian Marriage of a True Patriarch by David R. Leigh
  • Sarah Series #7: On the use of submission in 1 Peter by David R. Leigh

A Contentious Wife:

• Are YOU “a contentious wife”?
• What if being a SUBMISSIVE wife requires being a CONTENTIOUS wife?
• Contentious women, men, and people
• Obeying unsubmissively and Submitting disobediently

Processing the Pain:

• Sexual Sin in Christian Marriage revisited- renouncing Harlotry
• the particular loneliness that comes from a loveless marriage
• I renounced unbiblical wedding vows!
• Sexual Sin within Christian Marriage
• Biblical Grounds for Divorce
• brokenhearted children —> broken intimacy
• WARNING: –> –> DEADLY Snake Oil

Excellent!

• Emotional and Verbal Abuse Up Close
• 1 Corinthians 11 – online articles
• We wouldn’t argue if she would just submit!
• The mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God

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Index to blog “Pages”

Where a page has sub-pages (the indented links), I suggest reading the main page first followed by the sub-pages. Enjoy!

Beautiful Symmetry

• 1 Peter 2-3
• Ephesians 5

About Me: Charis

Help MEET

I Tim 2

Obey?

• “as Sara obeyed Abraham”

Ruler

Submission

Titus 2

• “Keepers”
• sober/discreet/self-controlled

What if he is Abusive

ARCHIVAL LIST of ALL POSTS:

• Quiver Full
• FTR: A geeky Greek conversation with Suzanne on the passive voice of wifely submission in Eph 5:24
• The Obligatory Sex Doctrine- Part 2
• “It wasn’t like, boring, married couple sex…. ” says one of Tiger Woods’ hookers
• “the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman [is] man, and the head of Christ [is] God”
• Headship and Bodyship
• The Obligatory Sex Doctrine- Part 1
• Mr. Mom
• Year of Jubilee
• Eph 5:33 “wife that she fear [her] husband”
• Cialis? Bah Humbug!
• Prayer Request
• Friends On the Journey
• “The Good Wife”
• The Naked Truth
• “There are only two states of being: submission to God… or…”
• How to respond to un-worthy behavior?
• “Submitting” is a Participle
• How to Heal from Adultery and Other Serious Marital Sins
• “The Not Quite Happy Ending”
• I Pahked the Cah in the Hahvahd Yahd (Parked the Car in the Harvard Yard)
• Does 1 Peter 3 teach “an authority designated to husbands that gives them a role akin to a master”?
• “Sarah was a strong woman. And Abraham LIKED that.”
• Away for a Few Days..
• “characterized by an unsubmitted will”
• “subdue the earth”
• Therapeutic Rejection
• Those Aren’t Fighting Words, Dear
• Choose
• How about a Christian Wife Going on Strike?
• God’s Calling to Women
• Emotional Abusers
• What about “God Hates Divorce”?
• “lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God” 2 Tim 3:4
• the beginning
• Christian Sex Therapists Prescribe Sexual Fast
• Prayer Request…
• The Sexual Fast
• Healing a Broken Marriage From Adultery
• Porn Use Epidemic Among Christians
• Abused Men
• I am FREE to be human…
• A Woman’s Place: Keeper at Home
• Clips from “The Centerfold Syndrome” and introducing Pastor Ed who is preaching the Truth
• re: “strategy and philosophy the children are being raised in”
• Love Dare “Bible Study” – Why I am Tempted to Drop Out
• The Reality is that Divorce Does not End the Abuse
• Dad Toasts the Couple
• Wedding Day Photos
• Wedding Slideshow
• Beloved Daughter Marries Today
• But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespassesc
• Freedom from the Bondage to Pornography.
• Faulty Impulse Control –> Affair
• Going Deeper…
• The Priority of Holiness, Sanctification, and Honor when it comes to sex
• Healing Deep Hurts of the Past
• What if I wish he/she was dead?
• Mark Driscoll and Joel Davisson- Sexual Gluttons in need of Prayer
• Bible Rebuttal of Mark Driscoll’s Sex Teaching #1
• “Pastoral” Counsel on OS
• Proud Mama Moment
• “teach the young women to be… keepers at home”
• Reflection on the June 15 Marriage Counseling
• Mark Driscoll Angry at Abusive Men: “Who do you think you are?!
• “we need to drain the wound.. to get any relief”
• BOTH male and female are necessary for LIFE
• The MYTH of male/husband authority/leadership
• Kudos to Sheri for facing the Giants
• Today
• Dan’s Wedding
• “The Bondage Breaker”- separating baby from bathwater
• Zealous???
• When it Rains, it Pours…
• The Centerfold Syndrome
• Steps to Wifely Bondage in Marriage
• The Bondage Breaker
• Charis Corset
• Letter to My Children #3
• Biblical Barbie
• “and it fell with a great crash”
• Awake Not Love Before its Time
• Saint John Chrysostom says…
• “I wish they would go the whole way and emasculate themselves!”
• GoldenDoodles and Golden Opportunity
• #5 “his mouth speaks”, just say “NO” to penal substitution, and log/splinter deflection
• How “the church” handles abuse
• Whirlwind-Typhoon
• Scriptures and Prayers of a Betrayed Wife #4
• Scriptures and Prayers of a Betrayed Wife #2
• Scriptures and Prayers of a Betrayed Wife… #1
• The Bleeding has Stopped
• GLORY #9
• GLORY #8
• GLORY #7
• “CLEAVE”
• my response to “christian” men who practice using women for self gratification
• My Conditions
• Today I contemplated…
• The Whirlwind of Betrayal #2
• Letter to My Children (continued)
• Letter to My Children
• In the Whirlwind of Betrayal
• It wasn’t just “workaholism”. He had a girlfriend he was screwing.
• “But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives are to their husbands in all [matters].”
• “On the use of submission in 1 Peter” by David R. Leigh
• A Proverbs 31 husband married to a “daughter of Sara”
• The Egalitarian Marriage of a True Patriarch
• Series on Sarah
• Comps and Egals Agree
• Is There Sex in Heaven?
• From a conversation with Jane Doe
• Proverbs 31 Woman
• Susan Boyle Makeover and Extreme Mom Makover
• “My father had a fascination with 1 Corinthians 11…”
• “I am NO MAN!”
• Is Romans 1:26-27 a Condemnation of Homosexuality?
• Bible Teaches Wifely Leadership
• Burning with indignation… alone
• Emotional and Verbal Abuse Up Close
• Why Did Jesus Die?
• Income Tax (having an attitude of gratitude)
• Wives Submit to Your Husbands
• Eggerich: Male Lust Coddled and “Conflict Makes Men Feel Disrespected”
• A husband’s “final decision making authority”
• submit as to the Lord…
• Who is “the hidden man of her heart”?
• “Beware the leaven of the Pharisees, which is hypocrisy”
• Patriarchy is not “God’s Plan”
• A Crutch, A Soft Place to Fall
• The whole “husband as leader” thing…
• The Biblical Family
• Theresa on “No longer Quivering”
• “the iniquity of the fathers upon the children”
• Are you a first-born daughter?
• Marital Submission and the Bible
• “Boundless” Practical Submission. NOT “Christianity” but Xerxeanity!
• one woman man- mias gunaikos aner
• Apostle Paul is NOT a Male Chauvinist!
• Focus on the Family? Focus on Marriage?…
• Today…
• What “the Flesh” Looks Like and What to Do About It
• 1 Timothy 2:11-15- unveiled
• “when I became a man, I put away childish things”- Paul’s use of gender metaphors
• Is Paul speaking of “man” and “woman” metaphorically in 1 Cor 11?
• on a woman’s desire to “be a man”
• 1 Corinthians 11 – online articles
• veil, veiled, covered, hidden, revealed, kalypto, kalupto, kalymma, katakalyptō, anakalyptō, akatakalyptos
• GLORY #6 “the man is glorified in the woman”
• GLORY #5 – Glory LOST :(
• “she loved much” GLORY Restored? GLORY#4
• HMM=Heaven Made Marriage
• Children of Alcoholics “Damaged”
• How Men and Women are DIFFERENT!!!
• GLORY #3 “divine realities are not the object of physical sight”
• GLORY #1
• GLORY #2
• Ash Wednesday
• More Helpful Abuse Recovery…
• Getting Out of the Box
• Good Changes
• Assessing an Abuser’s Claims of Change
• Reasons an Abuser Does not Want to Stop, How an Abuser Thinks, Types of Spouse Abusers
• What Helps an Abuser Change?
• The Effect of Pornography
• Shalom!
• the sins of the fathers are visited upon the children…
• When a wife’s authority is denied…
• “Fireproof” reflections…
• Honor your father and mother that it may go well with you
• Abuse- Can We have a Discussion?
• Emotional Incest
• “What Has Happened to Men?” and “Reconcilitation with a Hardened Wife”
• feeling useless
• We wouldn’t argue if she would just submit!
• And God said “I am NOT an abusive father!”
• Keeping Secrets? vs. “naked and unashamed”
• Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
• My name is Charis and I’m an Introvert
• Atonement, Complacence, and the Sermon on the Mount
• My Dogs are Back :)
• ba`al + ba`al mutuality in the marriage of Abraham and Sarah
• Origin Insights from Genesis 1-5
• filling in the blanks…
• When Daddy Verbally Abuses the Children #2
• WOW and DOUBLE WOW!!!
• Handle With Care
• Unconditional Submission to a Disobedient-to-the-Word Husband
• HPK- a message for you
• Seeing Progress…
• Emphasis on “historical context” troubles me
• Jezebel Spirit? No. Casting off Sapphira Spirit!
• WHY is the divorce rate for atheists lower than that for evangelical Christians?
• Permission to “shove back”
• kephale
• submit yourselves to every authority instituted among men
• On Wives Turning to the Law for Relief
• Submission not to be confused with Obedience
• Ephesians 5:21 “Submitting yourselves one to another…”
• On Power Being Equalized
• The mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God
• God and Peter Advise the WIFE of a DISOBEDIENT HUSBAND
• Processing the Pain :(
• Surgery Today at 2:30 EST
• Proverbs 31 Woman
• I have a dream… Could it happen in 2009?
• May I drink, Lord?
• Christmas and Alcohol
• WHY don’t you go to church anymore?
• Christmas Carol Theology of WHY Jesus came?
• Oh I wish I were An Oscar Meyer Weiner…
• Historical view of women…
• Submission Illustrated
• The nature, the design of a woman…
• Is God Mean? #8 God does NOT judge us based on our “sins”
• Submission and Service
• Is God Mean? #7 Christians are NOT saved from…
• Prayer Request
• The Emperor has no Clothes!
• Who will teach me the TRUTH about God and the Bible?
• Is God Mean? #6 Atonement Theories
• A Ladies Man
• “authentein” of 1 Timothy 2:12
• Is God Mean? #5 Atonement Theories
• And the winner is…
• Is God Mean? #4 Is God’s Wrath Poured Out on Jesus?
• Why is God so mean? #3 Was God’s WRATH poured on Jesus?
• fewer consequences for Eve than for Adam?
• Why is God so mean? #2
• Why is God so mean? #1
• Emmanuel- God With Us
• “vile affections”
• “Unto the woman God said…” Genesis 3:16
• DESIRE of “your desire shall be for your husband” Genesis 3:16
• “Leave and Cleave” UNIQUELY directed to HUSBANDS
• InSIGHTS into ezer. “I will make help/ezer suitable for him”
• “The Curse” of Genesis 3? GOOD NEWS! God never CURSED humanity at the Fall!
• Joint Authority
• ——>INDEX<——
• Progress: bragging on my hubby…
• The masculinization of the church
• Women in High Places
• Disrespect of women runs deep
• the man wants to be alone
• Why did my children turn out so good?
• Will God move the mountain?
• Thank You
• “Sanctified” Sexual Excess Preached from the Pulpit
• When “equality” of women is a code word for “same”
• My Questions?
• Jesus vs. Religion
• un”church”ed and unashamed”
• Joyfully un”churched” #2
• Joyfully UN”church”ed :)
• “She saved my life, And she didn’t do it by doing the submissive-Christian-woman thing.”
• LOVE & RESPECT: Book review by Joel Davisson
• “I’m not too big on religion” Jesus said…
• CONTROL!
• Put your hope and trust where?
• under His wings…
• They’ll know we are Christians by our LOVE?
• Who is Missing from the Picture?
• If I should die….
• I renounce Tithing!
• Unchurched: I repent from my “church idolatry”!
• Autumn
• I am willing, Lord…
• The End of Christendom
• Spiritual Formation of the Sheep
• 1 Peter’s powerful message to modern Christian wives
• The wise man built his house upon the Rock
• Courage in women is often mistaken for insanity
• “there is no call for revival found anywhere in Scripture” says Graham Cooke
• SKUNK House Refugee
• GLORY?
• Penis Envy
• A Proverbs 31 Woman…
• Love and Respect: the J & K way…
• Lectio Divina
• Is pornography the moral equivalent of adultery?
• Making a Paradigm Shift
• Todd and Sarah Palin. God, you are so funny sometimes!
• Todd Palin and Todd Bentley
• Sarah Palin vs. Isaiah 3:12
• Heads Up: “Who’s in Charge? Or, Who Cares?”
• Kudos for Sarah Palin- 1,2,3 DITTOS!!!
• Sarah Palin is HOT! USA’s Pin-Up Politician
• “I will settle the barren woman in her home as the happy mother of children” Ps 113:9
• And great FEAR came upon the church…
• Get them Bread
• Love and Respect….. so why does God use the word “FEAR” in Eph 5:33?
• “Leading Him Up the Garden Path: Further Thoughts on 1 Timothy 2:11-15″ by R.M. Groothuis: my reflections
• Feeling God
• Dear Shonnah and Todd Bentley,
• “My sheep hear My voice… no one shall snatch them out of My hands”
• Vacation was fun…
• Money, Worry, Trusting God
• A “manly” Wife
• marriage- inferno- beast hates harlot and burns her with fire
• More on harlotry within ‘christian’ marriage
• “BE NOT DISPLEASED… whatever Sarah says to you, do as she tells you”
• “your desire shall be for your husband and he shall rule over you”
• “you are Sara’s daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear”
• the CALLING and the BLESSING
• SUPPORT
• “for the husband is the head of the wife”
• Southern Baptist Scholar Links Spouse Abuse to Wives’ Refusal to Submit to Their Husbands
• sex, sex, sex, sex, sex- Is it really ALL about SEX????
• Sexual Sin in Christian Marriage- renouncing Harlotry
• Entertaining Angels?
• “Sacred Influence”- Complementarian Gary Thomas Speaks Life to Women: a book review
• Submission is REST…
• egalitarian—> ME <—-complementarian
• The Beast and the Harlot
• Hear
• “keeper of the home”/oikouros- from Titus 2:5
• The rise of abuse in the last days is prophesied….
• A Word from Ruth: lemonade from lemons
• “they that exercise authority upon them are called benefactors”
• The Head of the Household: The REST of the Story…
• How to Stop Feeding the Beast…
• “Abuse as an Addiction” by Pat Gundry
• Effects of the Wounds: female “brain freeze” and male “heart freeze”
• Feminine Spiritual Warfare: She Travails!
• Submitting to the Necessary Surgery
• Heaven is better than that- all the time!
• “even as Sara obeyed Abraham calling him lord”
• “live with your wives in an understanding manner”
• SIN that leads to LIFE- HOW CAN THIS BE????
• “oikodespot-eô”- What motivates the Cover Up?
• Who Wears the Pants?
• Roots of and Deliverance from Domestic Violence
• Travailing over these men… will we birth “men of exceptional holiness and devotion”?
• Are YOU “a contentious wife”?
• A Husband’s Submission
• Danger! UNbiblical Wedding Vows :(
• Darkness is not my Friend…
• I know, I know…
• Barbequing Sacred Cows #2
• CONTROL
• Clergy Responses to Domestic Violence
• WHO’S THE BOSS?
• Power, Love, and a Sound Mind
• Who’s Deceived? Who’s Rebellious?
• Barbequing Sacred Cows
• Today
• Bitter Venting…
• ONE WORD from the Bible CHANGED MY LIFE!
• “oikosdespotes”- OYE! WHAT a DESPOT!
• Body Image- “extreme Mom makeover”?
• Porn Castrates: Impotent Man, Omnipotent GOD
• “Don’t Develop BITTERNESS” by Joel & Kathy Davisson
• submission and abuse
• A Blue Dress and Other Blessings
• FREE! :) to help you “Spring Ahead” in your marriage
• in Mary Magdelene’s sandals…
• Prodigal
• Song of Songs- approval of the “harem” is NOT romantic!
• “I labor in birth until Christ be formed in you“
• Whoever confesses his love BY EVERYTHING HE DOES…
• because of a lack of grace and truth in some churches, Christians have had to go elsewhere to find healing…
• Response to Nancy Wilson’s “Submission Requires Courage”- Part 2
• ezer- Help MEET, helper suitable, “ezer kenegdo”, companion, counterpart, comparable, fit, just right, etc…
• Brett wants to know “WHY are you exposing these SINS?”
• The “F-word” and the “S-word” (not the BAD ones!)
• What did you DO all day, anyway?
• Response to Nancy Wilson’s “Submission Requires Courage”- Part 1
• What if being a SUBMISSIVE wife requires being a CONTENTIOUS wife?
• Contentious women, men, and people
• “The concerns of today’s ‘lazy’ wives” has gotten me thinking…
• Introducing a NEW page: “What if he is Abusive?”
• A man’s best friend?
• WARNING: –> –> DEADLY Snake Oil Formula <– <– Peddled as “marriage medicine” :<(
• “made manifest by the LIGHT”- Ephesians 5
• “the particular loneliness”–> the gateway to something new
• the particular loneliness that comes from a loveless marriage…
• Winter
• “Love”- feelings would be nice, but some say they are unnecessary
• God’s Protection in the Furnace…
• Sexual Sin within Christian Marriage #2
• 1 Tim 2:11-15- Promise of RESTORATION!
• What if Eve had not Followed Adam OUT of the Garden?
• Love
• in the manner that Christ serves, without hostility or guile.
• Sexual Sin within Christian Marriage #1
• 1 Tim 2 speaks to the porn problem
• Where does the “submitted wife” go when… ?
• Nancy and Jeff
• brokenhearted children —> broken intimacy
• suffering
• Will I Speak LIFE or death?
• Sowing and Reaping: Good and Bad Ways of Judging
• Grace AND Truth
• The English word ‘submission’ does such a poor job of interpreting upotasso or upotassomenoi
• “works of the flesh”
• hesed and submission
• Parameters of Submission
• What is “help” and “submission”?
• submitting to abuse is not good for a husband
• Etymology of the word “authority”
• Am I faithful with “a little”?
• Jesus Role Models Submission
• When Daddy verbally abuses the children, how can a Christian wife and Mommy respond?
• Disclaimer…
• DANGER!!! Bad wedding vows—->suffering and abuse!
• I renounced unbiblical wedding vows!
• Heirs Together
• Submission is a qualification for Spiritual Leadership
• Biblical Grounds for Divorce
• Husband Head
• Oikouros
• Song of Solomon- a story of love, seduction, betrayal, paying the price, pain, choices
• Head/Body Metaphor of Marriage
• Reversing the Fall
• KEEPER of the home—> authority to PROTECT the household and separate from an abusive husband
• Obeying unsubmissively and Submitting disobediently
• Mary Meditations
• Fulfilling the CALL to be “keeper” and “ezer”
• How much authority did Sarah have? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ YOU ARE HER DAUGHTERS!
• In those days, it was NOT expected that a wife would follow her husband
• Snow
• Porn Use Epidemic among Christian Men
• Women protectors of their home
• Unilateral Submission
• Pornography :(
• What kind of person was Sarah?
• Sarai
• Abraham and Sarah- mutuality
• “as Sarah obeyed Abraham” – Sarah’s role model of submission
• “Keeper”
• How to “love life and see good days”
• “authenteo”, anger, malice, clamour
• 1 Tim 2 notes
• 1 Tim 2:11-15 (Revelations)
• Circumcision of the Heart
• Implications of “unequally yoked” teaching for marriage?
• Hello world!
• Submission and Equality
• “To offer to domineer over the conscience is to assault the citadel of heaven.”
• " man should be ruler over his own household." <—-> Esther’s authority
• 20
• Inheritance: Restored in Christ
• Authority
• The straw that broke the camel’s back…
• "I will make him an help meet for him"
• The Slave Who Fans the King
• Biblically, Does Submission Equal Obedience?
• Jesus, can You be my husband?
• Respect in Marriage (Greek Word Study)