“My father had a fascination with 1 Corinthians 11…”

This is  from the testimony of Nate Phelps, son of Pastor Fred Phelps.  Nate was speaking at the “American Atheists Convention” April 11, 2009, Atlanta, GA . I’m posting a clip about what his father did to his mother. Its the tip of the iceberg.  He also speaks of the child abuse at the link.  [...]

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DESIRE of “your desire shall be for your husband” Genesis 3:16

Unto the woman HE [God]said,
I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception;
in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children;
and thy desire [shall be] to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. Gen 3:16

desire desire desire desire desire…
can be a twisted pathetic thing
which leads to MUCH pain
she has made her husband an idol [...]

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“your desire shall be for your husband and he shall rule over you”

If one translates the technical jargon in this description of abuse into biblical language, it sounds very much like a real life description of “your desire shall be for your husband and he shall rule over you”.
As a fundamentalist Christian woman in recovery from a fatal marriage killing MIS-understanding of biblical submission, I identify very [...]

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“for the husband is the head of the wife”

“Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ,
so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.”
Eph 5:24
The word there translated “subject to” means “arrange under” and would more accurately be rendered “support”. “Support” for Christlikeness, never for carnality (or she is failing to be meet help)!!!
And what is a husband “dying to [...]

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Barbequing Sacred Cows #2

Disrespectful Judgments I have heard
“You are being CONTROLLING!”
Exactly how controlling is a DESPOT?
People wag their finger: the pastor, the friend, the recovery-speaker, the theologians, preachers, commentaries….
GOD is not frowning.
GOD is smiling
YOU GO GIRL!
Now there’s a good little despot!
see “oikosdespotes”- OYE! WHAT a DESPOT!
“You are being CONTENTIOUS!”
GOD is on the throne and I believe that [...]

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CONTROL

Sounds very familiar… from a real life example of a complementarian couple
I’m at the “drawing the line in the sand” phase.
Because her husband took authority over her will, she started to lose who she was as a person and instead of growing and maturing as a person and as a Christian she was kept in [...]

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Barbequing Sacred Cows

mmmm smell that smoke…. A sweet aroma unto the LORD!
Which has more authority? A “head“? or a “despot“?
“If I wanted your opinion, I’d ask for it!”
“You can’t buy that book, see that friend, go to that counselor!”
“Adam’s big mistake was listening to Eve. I don’t intend to do likewise!”
“The Bible says SUBMIT, your body belongs [...]

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“Don’t Develop BITTERNESS” by Joel & Kathy Davisson

Why do wives get so very, very bitter?
Why is it that a wife will finally get so fed up, that she is really fed up?
After a wife cries out to God, pleading with Him to touch her husband for 20 years…
We have taught wives that they are to be quiet and just pray for their [...]

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submission and abuse

I believe that the misuse of submission doctrine is directly linked to the high divorce rate among professing Christians and is a travesty which robs women of human dignity and spiritual authority and effectiveness and robs men of the help MEET God designed and intended. I find very disturbing to see over and over again [...]

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Introducing a NEW page: “What if he is Abusive?”

On the “dashboard” of a WordPress blog, one can see “search terms” which people used in order to find the blog. I decided that I needed to add a new page when I saw these search terms within the past one week:
-can a christian wife leave her abusive husband
-christianity sexual submission
-my pastor says [...]

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Sexual Sin within Christian Marriage #1

1Thes 4: 3-6 God wants you to be holy,
so don’t be immoral in matters of sex.
Respect and honor your wife.
Don’t be a slave of your desires
or live like people who don’t know God.
You must not cheat any of the Lord’s followers in matters of sex. (CEV)

From Why do I feel so [...]

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Where does the “submitted wife” go when… ?

Molly’s questions:
Where does the “submitted wife” go when her husband has an anger problem? What about when he wants to control everything. When she has to ask permission for the simplest things, to ask permission for all outside-the-home activities? What if he tells her to start keeping an hour-by-hour log of everything she did that [...]

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Obeying unsubmissively and Submitting disobediently

One can OBEY with a very resentful contentious(unsubmissive) attitude
OR one can DIS-OBEY with a sweetly submissive attitude.
I have a rather trivial example from my life with a “control freak” husband. This is the episode/the object lesson where it FINALLY registered to me that I was behaving like a “slave wife” and OBEYING instead of a [...]

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“authenteo”, anger, malice, clamour

In 1 Tim 2:11-15 the word translated “usurp authority over” is “authenteo”
It is unique- occurring only once in the Bible- and implies very forceful behavior carrying the meaning: absolute master; murderous; autocratic.
One can pontificate endlessly about the meaning of the word… but I suspect the behavior Paul is describing is not limited to a window [...]

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The Slave Who Fans the King

So, in the dream I am the slave who is fanning the king.
I was talking to Chris and Lisa, telling them some things that happened over the weekend.
Lisa starts doing a “slave fanning the king” motion.
I get it!
He does his “control freak” routine.
I lose my temper, I’m outta control
I feel guilty
So I cave and ‘fan [...]

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