“This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves philautos , covetous, boasters alazon, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,Without natural affection astorgos, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent akrates, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors prodotes, heady, highminded typhoo, lovers of pleasures philēdonos more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.” 2 Tim 3:1-5
Just for the record, if we divorce, it is NOT because of his adultery. Adultery is fleeting, “wham bam thank you ma’am”…
It is for the daily, long term, unrepentant ABUSE. It is for the selfishness, the self-centeredness, the arrogance, the lack of consideration.
There is a silver lining to the adultery. How many times have I heard abused women say, “I wish he would have committed adultery; the church understands that; the church will be supportive of a sexually betrayed wife, but not an abused one”?
I thought many times that I wish my husband would have an affair. That would have been far less painful, far less damaging to the children, far less ruinous to all of us for the rest of our lives! AND the church would have blessed the dissolution of our marriage.
Nevertheless, just for the record, though I may get sympathy from the church because I have a philandering husband. Note the greek roots there: “phil”=love, “andros”=men. The divorce is not for philandering. The divorce is for the ABUSE. Here’s a “phil”/love sandwich from the opening passage. The divorce is for the philautos, alazon, astorgos, akrates, prodotes, typhoo, philēdonos! NOT for the adultery.
- To carry on a sexual affair, especially an extramarital affair, with a woman one cannot or does not intend to marry. Used of a man.
- To engage in many love affairs, especially with a frivolous or casual attitude. Used of a man.
[From philander, lover, from Philander, former literary name for a lover, from Greek philandros, loving or fond of men :