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Beautiful Symmetry

• 1 Peter 2-3
• Ephesians 5

About Me: Charis

Help MEET

I Tim 2

Obey?

• “as Sara obeyed Abraham”

Ruler

Submission

Titus 2

• “Keepers”
• sober/discreet/self-controlled

What if he is Abusive

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Index to Selected Posts

DEVOTIONAL SELECTIONS:

• in Mary Magdelene’s sandals…
• submit as to the Lord
• “The Curse” of Genesis 3? GOOD NEWS! God never CURSED humanity at the Fall!
• Circumcision of the Heart
• Whoever confesses his love BY EVERYTHING HE DOES…
• Mary Meditations
• suffering
• “works of the flesh”
• Reversing the Fall
• Am I faithful with “a little”?
• 1 Tim 2:11-15- Promise of RESTORATION!
• “I labor in birth until Christ be formed in you“
• SIN that leads to LIFE- HOW CAN THIS BE????
• The mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God

Authority:

• How much authority did Sarah have? ~~~~YOU ARE HER DAUGHTERS!
• Etymology of the word “authority”
• Am I faithful with “a little”?
• “To offer to domineer over the conscience is to assault the citadel of heaven.”
• Husband Head

Submission:

• Submission is REST…
• Jesus Role Models Submission
• Unilateral Submission
• submission and abuse
• submitting to abuse is not good for a husband!
• Submission is a qualification for Spiritual Leadership
• Wives Submit to Your Husbands

BIBLICAL WORD STUDIES:

• Respect in Marriage (Greek Word Study)
• Eph 5:33 “wife that she fear [her] husband”
• hesed and submission
• “ezer”- help MEET
• “oikouros”- KEEPER of the home
• “authenteo”, anger, malice, clamour
• ONE WORD from the Bible changed my life! “oikodespot..”
• “teshuqua“- desire: “Jesus, can You be my husband?”
• DESIRE of “your desire shall be for your husband”
• “authentein” of 1 Timothy 2:12

Other Bible Studies:

• The Beast and the Harlot
• Implications of “unequally yoked” teaching
• How to “love life and see good days”
• Song of Songs- approval of the “harem” is NOT romantic!
• 1 Cor 7:5- Is it really ALL about SEX????

• Sarah Series- Introduction
  • Sarah Series #1: “even as Sara obeyed Abraham calling him lord”
  • Sarah Series #2: Sarai means “contentious”
  • Sarah Series #3: YOU are her DAUGHTERS!
  • Sarah Series #4: “you are Sarah’s daughters IF you…”
  • Sarah Series #5: the authority of daughters of Sarah
  • Sarah Series #6: The Egalitarian Marriage of a True Patriarch by David R. Leigh
  • Sarah Series #7: On the use of submission in 1 Peter by David R. Leigh

A Contentious Wife:

• Are YOU “a contentious wife”?
• What if being a SUBMISSIVE wife requires being a CONTENTIOUS wife?
• Contentious women, men, and people
• Obeying unsubmissively and Submitting disobediently

Processing the Pain:

• Sexual Sin in Christian Marriage revisited- renouncing Harlotry
• the particular loneliness that comes from a loveless marriage
• I renounced unbiblical wedding vows!
• Sexual Sin within Christian Marriage
• Biblical Grounds for Divorce
• brokenhearted children —> broken intimacy
• WARNING: –> –> DEADLY Snake Oil

Excellent!

• Emotional and Verbal Abuse Up Close
• 1 Corinthians 11 – online articles
• We wouldn’t argue if she would just submit!
• The mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God

Complete Archive- click the box to scroll through every post on the blog:

-- Eph 5:33 “wife that she fear [her] husband” Cialis? Bah Humbug! Prayer Request Friends On the Journey “The Good Wife” The Naked Truth “There are only two states of being: submission to God… or…” How to respond to un-worthy behavior? “Submitting” is a Participle How to Heal from Adultery and Other Serious Marital Sins “The Not Quite Happy Ending” I Pahked the Cah in the Hahvahd Yahd (Parked the Car in the Harvard Yard) Does 1 Peter 3 teach “an authority designated to husbands that gives them a role akin to a master”? “Sarah was a strong woman. And Abraham LIKED that.” Away for a Few Days.. “characterized by an unsubmitted will” “subdue the earth” Therapeutic Rejection Those Aren’t Fighting Words, Dear Choose How about a Christian Wife Going on Strike? God’s Calling to Women Emotional Abusers What about “God Hates Divorce”? “lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God” 2 Tim 3:4 the beginning Christian Sex Therapists Prescribe Sexual Fast Prayer Request… The Sexual Fast Healing a Broken Marriage From Adultery Porn Use Epidemic Among Christians Abused Men I am FREE to be human… A Woman’s Place: Keeper at Home Clips from “The Centerfold Syndrome” and introducing Pastor Ed who is preaching the Truth re: “strategy and philosophy the children are being raised in” Love Dare “Bible Study” – Why I am Tempted to Drop Out The Reality is that Divorce Does not End the Abuse Dad Toasts the Couple Wedding Day Photos Wedding Slideshow Beloved Daughter Marries Today But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespassesc Freedom from the Bondage to Pornography. Faulty Impulse Control –> Affair Going Deeper… The Priority of Holiness, Sanctification, and Honor when it comes to sex Healing Deep Hurts of the Past What if I wish he/she was dead? Mark Driscoll and Joel Davisson- Sexual Gluttons in need of Prayer Bible Rebuttal of Mark Driscoll’s Sex Teaching #1 “Pastoral” Counsel on OS Proud Mama Moment “teach the young women to be… keepers at home” Reflection on the June 15 Marriage Counseling Mark Driscoll Angry at Abusive Men: “Who do you think you are?! “we need to drain the wound.. to get any relief” BOTH male and female are necessary for LIFE The MYTH of male/husband authority/leadership Kudos to Sheri for facing the Giants Today Dan’s Wedding “The Bondage Breaker”- separating baby from bathwater Zealous??? When it Rains, it Pours… The Centerfold Syndrome Steps to Wifely Bondage in Marriage The Bondage Breaker Charis Corset Letter to My Children #3 Biblical Barbie “and it fell with a great crash” Awake Not Love Before its Time Saint John Chrysostom says… “I wish they would go the whole way and emasculate themselves!” GoldenDoodles and Golden Opportunity #5 “his mouth speaks”, just say “NO” to penal substitution, and log/splinter deflection How “the church” handles abuse Whirlwind-Typhoon Scriptures and Prayers of a Betrayed Wife #4 Scriptures and Prayers of a Betrayed Wife #2 Scriptures and Prayers of a Betrayed Wife… #1 The Bleeding has Stopped GLORY #9 GLORY #8 GLORY #7 “CLEAVE” my response to “christian” men who practice using women for self gratification My Conditions Today I contemplated… The Whirlwind of Betrayal #2 Letter to My Children (continued) Letter to My Children In the Whirlwind of Betrayal It wasn’t just “workaholism”. He had a girlfriend he was screwing. “But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives are to their husbands in all [matters].” “On the use of submission in 1 Peter” by David R. Leigh A Proverbs 31 husband married to a “daughter of Sara” The Egalitarian Marriage of a True Patriarch Series on Sarah Comps and Egals Agree Is There Sex in Heaven? From a conversation with Jane Doe Proverbs 31 Woman Susan Boyle Makeover and Extreme Mom Makover “My father had a fascination with 1 Corinthians 11…” “I am NO MAN!” Is Romans 1:26-27 a Condemnation of Homosexuality? Bible Teaches Wifely Leadership Burning with indignation… alone Emotional and Verbal Abuse Up Close Why Did Jesus Die? Income Tax (having an attitude of gratitude) Wives Submit to Your Husbands Eggerich: Male Lust Coddled and “Conflict Makes Men Feel Disrespected” A husband’s “final decision making authority” submit as to the Lord… Who is “the hidden man of her heart”? “Beware the leaven of the Pharisees, which is hypocrisy” Patriarchy is not “God’s Plan” A Crutch, A Soft Place to Fall The whole “husband as leader” thing… The Biblical Family Theresa on “No longer Quivering” “the iniquity of the fathers upon the children” Are you a first-born daughter? Marital Submission and the Bible “Boundless” Practical Submission. NOT “Christianity” but Xerxeanity! one woman man- mias gunaikos aner Apostle Paul is NOT a Male Chauvinist! Focus on the Family? Focus on Marriage?… Today… What “the Flesh” Looks Like and What to Do About It 1 Timothy 2:11-15- unveiled “when I became a man, I put away childish things”- Paul’s use of gender metaphors Is Paul speaking of “man” and “woman” metaphorically in 1 Cor 11? on a woman’s desire to “be a man” 1 Corinthians 11 – online articles veil, veiled, covered, hidden, revealed, kalypto, kalupto, kalymma, katakalyptō, anakalyptō, akatakalyptos GLORY #6 “the man is glorified in the woman” GLORY #5 – Glory LOST :( “she loved much” GLORY Restored? GLORY#4 HMM=Heaven Made Marriage Children of Alcoholics “Damaged” How Men and Women are DIFFERENT!!! GLORY #3 “divine realities are not the object of physical sight” GLORY #1 GLORY #2 Ash Wednesday More Helpful Abuse Recovery… Getting Out of the Box Good Changes Assessing an Abuser’s Claims of Change Reasons an Abuser Does not Want to Stop, How an Abuser Thinks, Types of Spouse Abusers What Helps an Abuser Change? The Effect of Pornography Shalom! the sins of the fathers are visited upon the children… When a wife’s authority is denied… “Fireproof” reflections… Honor your father and mother that it may go well with you Abuse- Can We have a Discussion? Emotional Incest “What Has Happened to Men?” and “Reconcilitation with a Hardened Wife” feeling useless We wouldn’t argue if she would just submit! And God said “I am NOT an abusive father!” Keeping Secrets? vs. “naked and unashamed” Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men My name is Charis and I’m an Introvert Atonement, Complacence, and the Sermon on the Mount My Dogs are Back :) ba`al + ba`al mutuality in the marriage of Abraham and Sarah Origin Insights from Genesis 1-5 filling in the blanks… When Daddy Verbally Abuses the Children #2 WOW and DOUBLE WOW!!! Handle With Care Unconditional Submission to a Disobedient-to-the-Word Husband HPK- a message for you Seeing Progress… Emphasis on “historical context” troubles me Jezebel Spirit? No. Casting off Sapphira Spirit! WHY is the divorce rate for atheists lower than that for evangelical Christians? Permission to “shove back” kephale submit yourselves to every authority instituted among men On Wives Turning to the Law for Relief Submission not to be confused with Obedience Ephesians 5:21 “Submitting yourselves one to another…” On Power Being Equalized The mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God God and Peter Advise the WIFE of a DISOBEDIENT HUSBAND Processing the Pain :( Surgery Today at 2:30 EST Proverbs 31 Woman I have a dream… Could it happen in 2009? May I drink, Lord? Christmas and Alcohol WHY don’t you go to church anymore? Christmas Carol Theology of WHY Jesus came? Oh I wish I were An Oscar Meyer Weiner… Historical view of women… Submission Illustrated The nature, the design of a woman… Is God Mean? #8 God does NOT judge us based on our “sins” Submission and Service Is God Mean? #7 Christians are NOT saved from… Prayer Request The Emperor has no Clothes! Who will teach me the TRUTH about God and the Bible? Is God Mean? #6 Atonement Theories A Ladies Man “authentein” of 1 Timothy 2:12 Is God Mean? #5 Atonement Theories And the winner is… Is God Mean? #4 Is God’s Wrath Poured Out on Jesus? Why is God so mean? #3 Was God’s WRATH poured on Jesus? fewer consequences for Eve than for Adam? Why is God so mean? #2 Why is God so mean? #1 Emmanuel- God With Us “vile affections” “Unto the woman God said…” Genesis 3:16 DESIRE of “your desire shall be for your husband” Genesis 3:16 “Leave and Cleave” UNIQUELY directed to HUSBANDS InSIGHTS into ezer. “I will make help/ezer suitable for him” “The Curse” of Genesis 3? GOOD NEWS! God never CURSED humanity at the Fall! Joint Authority ——>INDEX<—— Progress: bragging on my hubby… The masculinization of the church Women in High Places Disrespect of women runs deep the man wants to be alone Why did my children turn out so good? Will God move the mountain? Thank You “Sanctified” Sexual Excess Preached from the Pulpit When “equality” of women is a code word for “same” My Questions? Jesus vs. Religion un”church”ed and unashamed” Joyfully un”churched” #2 Joyfully UN”church”ed :) “She saved my life, And she didn’t do it by doing the submissive-Christian-woman thing.” LOVE & RESPECT: Book review by Joel Davisson “I’m not too big on religion” Jesus said… CONTROL! Put your hope and trust where? under His wings… They’ll know we are Christians by our LOVE? Who is Missing from the Picture? If I should die…. I renounce Tithing! Unchurched: I repent from my “church idolatry”! Autumn I am willing, Lord… The End of Christendom Spiritual Formation of the Sheep 1 Peter’s powerful message to modern Christian wives The wise man built his house upon the Rock Courage in women is often mistaken for insanity “there is no call for revival found anywhere in Scripture” says Graham Cooke SKUNK House Refugee GLORY? Penis Envy A Proverbs 31 Woman… Love and Respect: the J & K way… Lectio Divina Is pornography the moral equivalent of adultery? Making a Paradigm Shift Todd and Sarah Palin. God, you are so funny sometimes! Todd Palin and Todd Bentley Sarah Palin vs. Isaiah 3:12 Heads Up: “Who’s in Charge? Or, Who Cares?” Kudos for Sarah Palin- 1,2,3 DITTOS!!! Sarah Palin is HOT! USA’s Pin-Up Politician “I will settle the barren woman in her home as the happy mother of children” Ps 113:9 And great FEAR came upon the church… Get them Bread Love and Respect….. so why does God use the word “FEAR” in Eph 5:33? “Leading Him Up the Garden Path: Further Thoughts on 1 Timothy 2:11-15″ by R.M. Groothuis: my reflections Feeling God Dear Shonnah and Todd Bentley, “My sheep hear My voice… no one shall snatch them out of My hands” Vacation was fun… Money, Worry, Trusting God A “manly” Wife marriage- inferno- beast hates harlot and burns her with fire More on harlotry within ‘christian’ marriage “BE NOT DISPLEASED… whatever Sarah says to you, do as she tells you” “your desire shall be for your husband and he shall rule over you” “you are Sara’s daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear” the CALLING and the BLESSING SUPPORT “for the husband is the head of the wife” Southern Baptist Scholar Links Spouse Abuse to Wives’ Refusal to Submit to Their Husbands sex, sex, sex, sex, sex- Is it really ALL about SEX???? Sexual Sin in Christian Marriage- renouncing Harlotry Entertaining Angels? “Sacred Influence”- Complementarian Gary Thomas Speaks Life to Women: a book review Submission is REST… egalitarian—> ME <—-complementarian The Beast and the Harlot Hear “keeper of the home”/oikouros- from Titus 2:5 The rise of abuse in the last days is prophesied…. A Word from Ruth: lemonade from lemons “they that exercise authority upon them are called benefactors” The Head of the Household: The REST of the Story… How to Stop Feeding the Beast… “Abuse as an Addiction” by Pat Gundry Effects of the Wounds: female “brain freeze” and male “heart freeze” Feminine Spiritual Warfare: She Travails! Submitting to the Necessary Surgery Heaven is better than that- all the time! “even as Sara obeyed Abraham calling him lord” “live with your wives in an understanding manner” SIN that leads to LIFE- HOW CAN THIS BE???? “oikodespot-eô”- What motivates the Cover Up? Who Wears the Pants? Roots of and Deliverance from Domestic Violence Travailing over these men… will we birth “men of exceptional holiness and devotion”? Are YOU “a contentious wife”? A Husband’s Submission Danger! UNbiblical Wedding Vows :( Darkness is not my Friend… I know, I know… Barbequing Sacred Cows #2 CONTROL Clergy Responses to Domestic Violence WHO’S THE BOSS? Power, Love, and a Sound Mind Who’s Deceived? Who’s Rebellious? Barbequing Sacred Cows Today Bitter Venting… ONE WORD from the Bible CHANGED MY LIFE! “oikosdespotes”- OYE! WHAT a DESPOT! Body Image- “extreme Mom makeover”? Porn Castrates: Impotent Man, Omnipotent GOD “Don’t Develop BITTERNESS” by Joel & Kathy Davisson submission and abuse A Blue Dress and Other Blessings FREE! :) to help you “Spring Ahead” in your marriage in Mary Magdelene’s sandals… Prodigal Song of Songs- approval of the “harem” is NOT romantic! “I labor in birth until Christ be formed in you“ Whoever confesses his love BY EVERYTHING HE DOES… because of a lack of grace and truth in some churches, Christians have had to go elsewhere to find healing… Response to Nancy Wilson’s “Submission Requires Courage”- Part 2 ezer- Help MEET, helper suitable, “ezer kenegdo”, companion, counterpart, comparable, fit, just right, etc… Brett wants to know “WHY are you exposing these SINS?” The “F-word” and the “S-word” (not the BAD ones!) What did you DO all day, anyway? Response to Nancy Wilson’s “Submission Requires Courage”- Part 1 What if being a SUBMISSIVE wife requires being a CONTENTIOUS wife? Contentious women, men, and people “The concerns of today’s ‘lazy’ wives” has gotten me thinking… Introducing a NEW page: “What if he is Abusive?” A man’s best friend? WARNING: –> –> DEADLY Snake Oil Formula <– <– Peddled as “marriage medicine” :<( “made manifest by the LIGHT”- Ephesians 5 “the particular loneliness”–> the gateway to something new the particular loneliness that comes from a loveless marriage… Winter “Love”- feelings would be nice, but some say they are unnecessary God’s Protection in the Furnace… Sexual Sin within Christian Marriage #2 1 Tim 2:11-15- Promise of RESTORATION! What if Eve had not Followed Adam OUT of the Garden? Love in the manner that Christ serves, without hostility or guile. Sexual Sin within Christian Marriage #1 1 Tim 2 speaks to the porn problem Where does the “submitted wife” go when… ? Nancy and Jeff brokenhearted children —> broken intimacy suffering Will I Speak LIFE or death? Sowing and Reaping: Good and Bad Ways of Judging Grace AND Truth The English word ‘submission’ does such a poor job of interpreting upotasso or upotassomenoi “works of the flesh” hesed and submission Parameters of Submission What is “help” and “submission”? submitting to abuse is not good for a husband Etymology of the word “authority” Am I faithful with “a little”? Jesus Role Models Submission When Daddy verbally abuses the children, how can a Christian wife and Mommy respond? Disclaimer… DANGER!!! Bad wedding vows—->suffering and abuse! I renounced unbiblical wedding vows! Heirs Together Submission is a qualification for Spiritual Leadership Biblical Grounds for Divorce Husband Head Oikouros Song of Solomon- a story of love, seduction, betrayal, paying the price, pain, choices Head/Body Metaphor of Marriage Reversing the Fall KEEPER of the home—> authority to PROTECT the household and separate from an abusive husband Obeying unsubmissively and Submitting disobediently Mary Meditations Fulfilling the CALL to be “keeper” and “ezer” How much authority did Sarah have? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ YOU ARE HER DAUGHTERS! In those days, it was NOT expected that a wife would follow her husband Snow Porn Use Epidemic among Christian Men Women protectors of their home Unilateral Submission Pornography :( What kind of person was Sarah? Sarai Abraham and Sarah- mutuality “as Sarah obeyed Abraham” – Sarah’s role model of submission “Keeper” How to “love life and see good days” “authenteo”, anger, malice, clamour 1 Tim 2 notes 1 Tim 2:11-15 (Revelations) Circumcision of the Heart Implications of “unequally yoked” teaching for marriage? Hello world! Submission and Equality “To offer to domineer over the conscience is to assault the citadel of heaven.” " man should be ruler over his own household." <—-> Esther’s authority 20 Inheritance: Restored in Christ Authority The straw that broke the camel’s back… "I will make him an help meet for him" The Slave Who Fans the King Biblically, Does Submission Equal Obedience? Jesus, can You be my husband? Respect in Marriage (Greek Word Study)