Obeying unsubmissively and Submitting disobediently

One can OBEY with a very resentful contentious(unsubmissive) attitude
OR one can DIS-OBEY with a sweetly submissive attitude.

I have a rather trivial example from my life with a “control freak” husband. This is the episode/the object lesson where it FINALLY registered to me that I was behaving like a “slave wife” and OBEYING instead of a free wife and SUBMITTING- in his best interests.

I now understand that I am not obligated to OBEY but to SUBMIT (humbly cooperate) I now exercise my God given authority over routine household matters and do my work the way I think best. And, frankly, all my children AND myself know that his ideas on how it “should be done” are mistaken mainly because he never DOES what he wastes so much time micromanaging and controlling The recent object lesson in my marriage was about a vacuum. He does not vacuum and has no idea of what equipment will help us with that job!

I bought a $50 electric floor sweeper and he was angry with me. He was not satisfied until I “repented” by agreeing to drive two hours back to the distant store to return the tool (which would have cost a minimum of $20 in gas plus my time). I felt very angry and resentful that I did not have the freedom to buy myself a very modestly priced tool for my household duties! I was boiling and resentful.

Actually, the Lord gave me a dream in which I was a slave fanning the king… and a girlfriend upon hearing about the incident and the dream started doing a little “fanning dance”. Ohhhhhhh. I am behaving like a slave instead of a queen! A QUEEN has authority in her household! I sweetly and submissively explained to my hubby that I felt I needed the sweeper and I had changed my mind about returning it.